The 14th of February is our holiday for romance. Amore. Hearts. Kisses. Flowers. Candy. Kittens. Cards. Puppies. Balloons. Candles. Doves. Lingerie. Smooching. Cuddling. Wine.
You know the drill.
This is the holiday of the year we have defined to “love” our significant other. Just like Christmas is our holiday to give presents and Thanksgiving is our holiday to eat and New years is our holiday to party, Valentine is our day to have celebratory S E X.
Oops! Did I say that with my outside voice?
You know what all that romantic paraphernalia leads to, the horizontal rumba between the sheets.
It is not like we can’t (or don’t) do IT everyday. We write books about IT. We make movies about IT. We write songs about IT. Some of the best poetry is about IT. We even watch other people do IT.
We would do IT all the time if we didn’t have mandates that demand we cover our bodies when in public to refrain from our animal desires when seeing each others flesh. Even with all the restraints from legal and moral doctrine, we have harassment, peer pressure, humiliation, persuasion and nonconsensual penetration.
Remember when romance was that crush? Feeling strange due to an attraction to another. That is when all those flowers and heart cards try to break the ice. It is called flirting. It is the effort to get the attention of the other person in hopes that a connection can be formed. Flirting doesn’t always work, but it is worth the effort.
There are ‘blind’ dates where friends try to find a person for the evening so you won’t be odd man out. There are Sadie Hawkins dances so anybody can be forward enough to pop the question. There are even social media apps that are the best games to waste the time of lonely.
Then there is all that dating and exchanging rings and sweaters and going to the soda counter for a milkshake with two straws. All your friends now see you as a couple and you lose your individuality, but it is OK because you have someone to ‘spark’ with.
Share selfies and show of trinkets as romantic gifts but you friends just want to know how he or she is in the boudoir?
If you want to stay casual but still trying to find out about each other, you can leave the backseat and move in together. Everyone will know you are doing IT and living in sin, but this is the modern age of ‘free love’.
After some time trying to remember each other’s name and phone number, you get engaged. That is making a commitment that leads to marriage and a mortgage, kids, a dog and a life insurance policy that leaves all your worldly goods to the other person. This can be a soul mate that will last a lifetime or just the first of many tries at finding ‘the one’.
How to re-spark that feeling when you have been with a partner for years? That is what Valentine is for. Remember why you got together in the first place.
Valentine’s Day can also be a celebration of love lost, broken hearts, ex-lovers or mistaken affections. We all fall for the itch called ‘love’. Enjoy it.
So whether it is putting on some warm jammies and snuggling under a blanket watching your favorite rom-com or living out your romantic fantasy, this is your special day for amore.
The best meme I’ve heard is you have not yet met everyone who loves you.
Tomorrow you can go back to world war III, inflation, sports riots, road rage, supply chain constipation, climate change, political dysfunction and that never ending pesky virus.
Today is for ROMANCE.
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