Pamper

We love to be pampered. Soft powder, bubble bath, scented candles; hot tubs, silk sheets, etc. are all methods of being pampered. It is what taking vacations are all about. It is what you should feel when you dine out or check into a hotel.

We want to feel special and pampering does that. All the illustrations of kings and queens show pampering from being fed grapes to entertained by veiled dancers or fanned by Nubian beauties while drifting down the Nile.

This maybe the normal activities for the rich and famous, but for us poor smucks we save up our savings to take that special vacation to the mountains or the oceans to be pampered.

These are not trips to family outings or working conventions but just hedonistic luxurious pleasure. It is about being personally pampered. It makes you feel ‘special’.

The downside for most of us is the bubble pops and we get back to our humdrum routines of laundry, oil changes, vacuuming, diaper changes, yard work, and seeking out the perfect present for your 2^nd cousin once removed wedding.

There still can be date nights but the delivery pizza is cold or late night bubble baths interrupted by your cat, but to release yourself to someone else to take ultimate attention to your and your wild whims is pampering.

Do the people pampering you understand that?

There are many people in the hospitality industry who clean up after your mess and serve you for minimum wage. The driver who lifts your overstuffed bag into the trunk or the wait person who forgets your drink request or the grocery bagger who doesn’t ask ‘paper’ or ‘plastic’, are they pampering you?

Think about the sales person who rattles off the spiel trying to get you to sign on the dotted line. Do you feel they that your best interest in mind? The doctor who looks at your chart and then sends you off not sure if you feel better or now. Do you feel pampered? The politician who promises the world will be better but then forgets your name except to ask for another check. How does that make you feel?

There is so much ‘customer service’ we interact with from the coffee barista to the local protection service do you feel pampered? All of these people are ‘public servants’ hired to make use feel special. We shouldn’t fear them or abuse them for their job is to serve you to the best of their trained ability.

It is a difficult act to make someone else feel good. We get associated with our special other because they pamper use either by scratching our back or bringing home flowers. Should going out to buy a burger make your feel the same way?

Certainly it is hard to call a number and get a rebuff over and over without remembering the next call might just be the one (like the roulette machine). Certainly our service providers have bad hair days and must accommodate for our unreasonable demands.

Remember the client or customer wants to be pampered.

If you do it right, you get a tip.

If you don’t you might just be full of it?