Divorce

Divorce, also known as dissolution of marriage, is the process of terminating a marriage or marital union.

Divorce usually entails the canceling or reorganizing of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage, thus dissolving the bonds of matrimony between a married couple under the rule of law of the particular country or state.

Divorce laws vary considerably around the world, but in most countries divorce requires the sanction of a court or other authority in a legal process, which may involve issues of distribution of property, child custody, alimony (spousal support), child visitation / access, parenting time, child support, and division of debt. In most countries, law requires monogamy so divorce allows each former partner to marry another person.

When those that are in a common-law relationship break up, it is referred to as separation, instead of a divorce.

Divorce is different from annulment, which declares the marriage null and void, with legal separation or de jure separation (a legal process by which a married couple may formalize a de facto separation while remaining legally married) or with de facto separation (a process where the spouses informally stop cohabiting). Reasons for divorce vary, from sexual incompatibility or lack of independence for one or both spouses to a personality clash.

A divorce is a legal action between married people to terminate their marriage relationship. It can be referred to as dissolution of marriage and is basically, the legal action that ends the marriage before the death of either spouse.

After all, almost 50% of first marriages, 60% of second marriages, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce. While there are countless divorce studies with conflicting statistics, the data points to two periods during a marriage when divorces are most common: years 1 – 2 and years 5 – 8.

In most states, spouses are responsible for paying their own legal fees and costs in a divorce. However, exceptions exist, especially when one spouse earns considerably more than the other.

The dissolution of a marriage is almost always an upsetting event, at the very least marked by disappointment and the loss of dreams and expectations.

In addition, there are usually many legal, financial, parental, emotional, and practical challenges that require time, energy, and changes in responsibilities. It can take people years to regain equilibrium. Nevertheless, divorce serves an important function in legally and emotionally freeing people to form a more satisfying and more stable relationship.

No child dreams of having divorced parents. Divorce usually breaks up a household and its routines. Parents who are warring are often not paying as much attention to their children as they once did. Further, they divide children's allegiances. Children feel the losses acutely and can spend considerable time silently worrying about the well-being of either parent.

Children need assurance that they are still loved by both parents and that they will not be abandoned. They also need to be spared any conversations in which one parent denigrates the other for any reason. It is not the actual divorce that harms children but seeing their parents fight and in distress.

Divorce is not a shaming process. A divorce just means marriage didn’t work out for two people. A divorce can be unpleasant or expensive or can be admirable and agreeable.

There are no divorce parties or gifts. There is no music or dancing, but there might be some drinking.

What both during a marriage purchased can be a problem in court. Who bought the refrigerator and who uses which toothbrush? Hopefully two adults can decide that before the judge has to play Solomon.

At the same time, a divorcee is a failure. Did you get distracted from the one who has coffee with your every morning? Did the reason you got married fade with time? Did the person you married not lived up to your expectations?

I’ve never been good at long-term relationships. I’ve been married. I’ve been separated. I’ve been divorced (several times when the paperwork doesn’t go through right).

Any relationship break-up is hard to do, but a divorce makes it legal. This break-up gives you a receipt.