Filing For Divorce

 

Like so many things we do, you need a lawyer and a certificate or a legal declaration.

You can’t just hand back the ring or sweater and breakup after you’ve had a wedding in front of others a get a license to cohabit.

Some reasons for divorce are…

Infidelity (the extra-marital relationship), Communication (were you not talking before the vows?), Domestic abuse (no excuse for beating on partners), Incompatibility (the key didn’t fit the slot), Commitment (‘I do’ meant well maybe), Lack of compatibility ( don’t like those curtains?), Abandonment (where did they go?), Irretrievable breakdown (them just done to be crazy), Addiction (to whatever except marriage), Abuse (verbal or physical), Marriage expectations (what did you expect?), Loss of identity (you share a name and a tax form and everything else that comes with sharing), Growing Apart (sorry about that), Lack of equality (who is the breadwinner?), Lack of intimacy (too tired), Finances (who is the breadwinner?), Constant conflict (seek consulting) , Marrying too young (there is no age limit for lust), Health problems (we do tend to break), Money (again, who is the breadwinner?), Imprisonment (didn’t expect that?), Weight gain (what is on the dinner table?).

Whether the spur of the movement, fueled by emotions and substances, the two decide to become one and go through the process of getting a public official, religious clergy or a ship’s captain to ask a few questions and say a few words declaring you were now bonded.

Daily heights and habits form and you either get along or not. Children can seal the deal or become a burden and an expensive responsible.

You stick with it or one files for divorce (see above for possible excuses). An attorney can write up a legal form with the qualifications and requirements for the split and present it to the other partner. The arrangement is signed and agreed upon or it can be nasty and costly. A judge can decide after hearing both arguments.

There was always cohabitation as an alternative to marriage but you miss that ‘Mr. & Mrs.’ on your Christmas cards. Joint bank accounts can become complicated but prenuptial can state expectations from the beginning.

Without a divorce you can never view someone from across the room and say, “That’s my ex”. You can never meet their current partner with a sly smile of knowing of inappropriate secrets.