Confrontation

Any relationship may come to confrontation but what is the outcome?

Social media has shown us to be confrontational with comments either based on factual research or religious doctrine or just emotional bias. Sometimes we just don’t get along.

Our competitions whether it be a football team we root but never played for or a close chess game, we are confrontational beings.

For every idea there is an opposite opinion and we relish in the debate to the point of physical conflict.

Now think about the relationship with our ‘significant other’.

Existing with another person requires some communication and certainly conflicts. How we handle these opposing points of views may save the relationship or cause a breakup.

In confrontations there must be a winner or the discord will only fester.

Diplomats throughout the world have tried to use words and reasoning to resolve conflicts for the alternative is bloody war.

Now war does have its positive points in confrontations. Not only can our leaders pound their chest and wear fancy uniforms but the armies can test all those cool weapons each of us have been paying for to see if they really work. Our wars while sacrificing young men and women plus innocent (that term is debatable) civilians’, at the end who ever is left has to go back home, bury the dead, pick up the pieces and start over again.

Everyday the headlines show confrontations that ended badly. The studies trying to rationalize the causes continue with variations and proclamations and statisticians and scientist and analysis and everyone else who want to add their two cents to dispute the numbers and charts and graphs create their own confrontation.

Groups and organizations and political parties will form to affirm their belief in the most minuscule detail of a sentence or interpretation. Confrontations are all about details.

So back to how you work out a confrontation at home, how do you compromise?

Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

Relationships, from what I understand, are a series of give-and-take. When two individuals decided (for whatever reason) to live under the same roof, there will be compromise.

Do you like this color for the curtains? How about a vacation in Bali during the Super Bowl weekend? You never take me out dancing? The grass needs cutting? What do you mean you are not in the mood? Why can’t you pick up your dirty underwear off the floor?

If you don’t think this is true, just ask your children.